This sums up my existence.

He threw away women who carried his children like used up, emptied, abused, covered up toys.

Did you ever care about me at all? Or was I always just a toy?

He was the fake, the fraud, the liar. The dangerous one, the evil one.

He violated her on every level then punished her for it.

He sold her a version of himself that wasn’t real just to get everything he wanted from her for as long as he could.

He put her in danger, was the only one who could help, and didn’t.

He made her dependent on him for safety and answers before withholding, playing victim, and exploiting her with it.

In exactly which way were you not a predator?

You let an innocent woman you’d already cheated out of motherhood take the fall for you.

You committed fraud. You are still abusing her. You’re a literal con artist. You have an innocent woman and one of your own late children swept under a nasty rug.

His nickname was “Gr__f Daddy” but he refused to stop dishonoring one of his own deceased children and stonewalling their mother, callously refusing to acknowledge that she or her loss ever happened. After silencing/punishing her, and instantly covering her up w a rat her age.

Willing to keep innocent human beings in pain for years for a staged relationship with an abuser. Claims to be qualified to care for others.

He groomed an innocent woman into believing he wanted to be with her for a year.
Coerced her reproductive decisions.
Used her body.
Got caught lying.
Threw her under the bus.
Played victim, pretended she meant nothing.
Refused answers & punished her.
Said he would be back.
Fed her to rabid wolves.
Instantly covered her up w sad mimic who could pose as her to anyone who knew.
Allowed her to defend and trust him for 2 years as the wolves ripped her apart and he gave every specific promise he made on his child’s life to mimic.
Fraudulently punishes her again, extending control over her for years for trying to tell him he was being lied to, but he already knew.
Continues playing victim, long term silent treatment harming her body and mind.
Continues giving her promises to mimic, maintaining silent treatment, fully aware she was suffering.
Refuses to be honest. Clings to the downgraded life he built on her pain and his lies.
Seriously harmed her physically and psychologically for 5 years and counting just to avoid admitting the truth (above).

He couldn’t be happy unless she was in pain.

What did I ever do to you to deserve being dehumanized and having my only pregnancy and our entire year long relationship covered up? I didn’t do anything to deserve that. No woman deserves to be treated like she never existed to cover up a man’s mistakes.

Withholding the sole remedy, comfort, or solution to relieve someone's pain—especially when you caused that pain—is known as emotional withholding, punitive withholding, or a form of coercive control and emotional abuse.

Key Concepts Behind This Behavior
•Emotional Withholding: The deliberate act of keeping back love, validation, answers, comfort, or the solution to a problem to create power, anxiety, or dependency.

•Using Comfort as a Reward: Treating basic reassurance, closure, or relief as a bargaining chip that the harmed person has to "earn" back through submission or compliance.

•Stonewalling / The Silent Treatment: Refusing to communicate or provide the necessary information or empathy needed to resolve a conflict, leaving the other person stranded in distress.

•Intermittent Reinforcement / Dosing: Often tied to a cycle where the person who inflicted the harm alternates between cold withholding and sudden, selective affection, keeping the victim disoriented and hyper-focused on gaining relief from them.